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Broken Up, Not Broken

Regardless of who broke up with who or why it happened, the end of a relationship can be a tough transition. It's normal to feel really sad and to have a hard time letting go and moving on. But if the break-up blues persist over a long period of time or interfere with your ability to get things done, it's important to speak up and find ways to cope.

Some people try to deal with the pain in ways that make things worse: increased drug or alcohol use, stalking an ex online or off, or sleeping around. It's better to find ways to cope that are healthy and help you heal. Here are some suggestions for helping yourself or a friend move on after a break-up.

Talk it Out: Sometimes, admitting our pain after a break-up may seem embarrassing, but holding it all inside can make things worse. Talking about it really can help make you feel better. It can also help to write things down in a journal or on a blog.

Walk it Out: Just getting up and getting out can make you feel better. Getting out of bed and moving around can be a big part of moving on. If finding motivation is hard, take it one step at a time. You can start with a stroll to the mailbox or the corner store.

Shut it Out: There are so many ways to keep up with an ex’s every move these days, especially through social networks. If you find yourself staring at your ex’s Facebook page for hours on end or hanging around his or her usual haunts to catch a glimpse, it’s time to make a

Seek it Out: Counselors are trained to help people work through painful times like break-ups. As much as we want to figure it all out on our own, sometimes we need the help of a pro. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Here are some ways to get started.

Watch Out: Sometimes break-ups can cause or worsen hopelessness that may lead to thoughts of suicide. If you or a friend are feeling hopeless or using drugs and acohol to try and deal with the pain, you have to speak up and get help. You aren’t alone and you can feel better, you just have to take that first step.

You can also call 1-800-273-TALK for a free, confidential chat 24/7.

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